The examen prayer has been mentioned before on my website (here) in the context of a book review, but I’d like to dig into this a little deeper today and share about how treating the examen as a sort of spiritual check-up can impact our lives for the better. The Ignatian examen finds its origins in The Spiritual Exercises by St. Ignatius of Loyola. Continue reading
There are days when we need an extra dose of strength to help us keep reaching higher. Ultimately, our strength as Christians comes from the Lord. Thanks be to God that He has given us His Word to draw from as a source of comfort, strength, and encouragement. It is not infrequent, I have found, that I stumble upon a meditation or devotional that I follow via email that confirms what I sense the Holy Spirit is telling me at some point. In my charismatic background, we would call this “having confirmation” when multiple sources are all pointing us in the same direction, it might be God trying to get our attention. It might not, depends on the message. Continue reading
In April 2018, I wrote about how to go about establishing a rule of life, and since this has been a subject coming up recently, I thought it was time for an annual revisit. I’ve broken my guidelines into Morning – Day/Afternoon – Evening – and General/Year-Round. Continue reading
As I am writing this, we are seeing morning footage of the damage from yesterday’s fire at Notre Dame de Paris. Incredibly, but not surprisingly, the Cross gleams amidst the rubble and the ash. The sacred relics of Christianity are saved. God is merciful.
My heart is joined with fellow Catholics in France and around the globe, mournful for the loss, but I am also hopeful that this tragedy will rekindle in the French nation a return to Christ and the godly principles that can restore a nation, nestled in the arms of Notre Dame, as she petitions on our behalf to the Almighty and Eternal God.
Today, I had been planning to share a word that I received a number of weeks ago that I hoped might be of some encouragement to you:
“You don’t have to walk through every doorway you come across.” – attributed to the Holy Spirit, 03/30/19
What does this mean for you? I believe it means that in the hallways of your life, a door may be open, or about to open in your life, but it may not be God’s will for you to enter. Choose carefully.
When in doubt, I’ve found that what works for me is to try and take the next right step, whatever that is, and then the next one after that, trusting that God will reveal the path as I go along. If that sounds a little like Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, you’re right.
When the way forward doesn’t seem clear to you, don’t be afraid to take that step of faith. Believe. And if you suddenly realize that the hallway you thought you were walking down was actually a closet, your next right step is turning around and exiting. There’s no other doorway but the way you came in. It’s never too late to make an adjustment. Just start.
Keep reaching higher,
Certified life coach Kendra Levin is author of The Hero is You: Sharpen Your Focus, Conquer Your Demons, and Become the Writer You Were Born to Be.
In her book, Levin states:
“So often, the people we most long to be like, our heroes, are simply versions of ourselves that are further along in life than we are, or who’ve employed the qualities we share with them, to take a different path than we have so far. To forge our own paths, we have to understand what our natural gifts and strengths are and foster them with our attention” (4).
Getting inside that head of yours requires introspection and self-analysis. Levin guides the reader through an exercise of analyzing one’s mentors and admired friends to seek to identify what mutual traits are shared, and what we wish to cultivate in our own soul growth. This practice is as valuable for spiritual growth as it is for the development of a creative practice, and that is what I’d like to explore in this article.
Some questions you might consider asking yourself include:
- Who are your spiritual mentors, both alive and dead?
- What traits do they possess that you wish to cultivate in your life?
- What challenges did they face that you recognize in your own life journey?
- How did God help them overcome those challenges?
- Did they leave behind any spiritual writings or guidelines for life that you can read and try to imitate?
Saints as Friends
Longtime readers of my blog may recall a post last year about my confirmation saint, St. Thérèse Couderc, and the brief biography I posted along with some quotes from her writings. I am deeply grateful that these were preserved as I have never been able to locate an actual copy of her writings entire, just quotes from random sources. However, these snippets of her life tell more about the kind of woman, the kind of saint, St. Thérèse Couderc was, and how she persevered despite the suffering she endured and the challenges she faced.
Perhaps you aren’t Catholic but you’ve recently felt drawn towards the life of a saint in the Catholic Church, and if so, that’s great! Explore their life. Find a spiritual biography about them. Learn what you can. If possible, maybe you can even visit a church named after them and see a relic. Or buy a prayer card of them to keep in your purse or wallet for those times when you desire to petition their help. It’s quite likely, depending on how well-known the saint is, you might even find their likeness on a keychain, or statuary or painting that you can introduce into your home.
I freely admit that for a long time, before I was Catholic, I used to think of such practices as being sketchy. Some of the Protestant groups I associated with, even considered it to be borderline idolatry. Now, with a clearer understanding of the Church’s teachings, I see this practice differently.
My husband and I honor our family by keeping framed photos of them on our fireplace mantle. They are dear to our heart and we keep reminders of them in sight where we congregate most at home. Your saint is no different! They can be beloved friends and loved ones, and you can learn from them as mentors and honor them in your homes and in your lives. Don’t be afraid to prayerfully experiment with this practice and be prepared for the blessings of these champions of the faith who have gone ahead of you. But they are not the only examples in your life…are they?
Seeking Out Spiritual Friends
They say that you’re the sum of the five closest people that you spend time with, so, be careful who you allow in your inner circle of friends. What kind of spiritual influence do your friends have on you? Are they people you’d like to emulate? Or could they maybe be people that, upon reflection, you’d be better off avoiding?
Weeding through acquaintances and friends is a process that requires discernment. I don’t believe in completely isolating oneself from the outside world (if we all did this, nonbelievers would find themselves without examples of the faith), but there’s a fine line between ministering to unbelievers and falling into the trap where you strive to be accepted by them and embrace less-than-godly pursuits and character maladjustments in the name of being liked or fearing rejection. I know, it’s hard. I struggle with it too.
The practice of finding good spiritual friends in your life is an investment that pays lifelong dividends. Read the book of Proverbs and any of the verses on good friendships and you’ll see what I mean. One of the hardest lessons I’ve found is to begin to accept that sometimes, people don’t want help. You can’t force relationships. No matter how much you try to belong, or to be accepted. You can only trust in God’s grace to reach out to that person — like a painter touching a canvas — even if you are not the instrument chosen.
So building those friendships, and learning to recognize the goodness in others that God has placed in your path, is both a gift and a challenge. It is not uncommon that the character traits of those people will be ones lacking in your own life that God is calling you to cultivate. Perhaps you are hot-tempered at times and your friend is like a tranquil lake; maybe God has placed that friend in your life to nurture peace and patience. Or maybe you are having trouble making time to pray, so God pairs you with someone that gets on your nerves because they pray without ceasing. Embrace the gift. Learn to recognize those positive traits in others and do the best you can to be imitators of the good, for as long as you are blessed to have them in your life. Because God only knows the road they are traveling, or when your paths will diverge.
I hope that in this little article that I’ve nudged your heart towards a more contemplative life, as you seek to know yourself better through the friendships you pursue, and the saints you may be feeling drawn towards knowing better. May God bless you and guide you ever closer to Himself.